I am sole caregiver for mom who has dementia for more than 8 years, I feel horrible for telling my mom you are sh*t. and this is the second time I do that in my life. I just lost my temper. I called mom with this after I spend an hour trying to change her diaper and cloths. all feces on her cloths and diaper. I tried first nicely even I think I was stressed and exhausted. I spent nights sleeping only two to three hours only just to prevent the dirt go outside the bathroom or when I hear something I jump from my bed check on my mom make sure she is okay and did not fall this is going on for months and months. I am so tired and I am fogy. I know this is not an excuse to call mom a name. I do love mom and I feel so horrible. I feel I am really bad ugly daughter. Some time I wish I die for being some time rude to mom. I know God will punish me one day when I get old. Someone much younger than me will treat me hatefully. HATE MYSELF. I pray to God to forgive me. But God will not forgive me each time if I repeat it.
How can I control my temper when I am so tired and fatigue. Mom deserve the best
Question: Why is it always the governments responsibility to finance and solve problems? It reminds me of fathers not paying child support...its their child. Don't we have some individual responsibility to step up; buy long term and supplemental insurance, Medicare insurance, dental insurance. Forget the new car, things. prepare for the future. OOOOOps! Did I star a fire?
You can pray all you want.....but somewhere, sometime you need to help your higher power help you by making decisions that will move things forward. Anger depression and fatigue are roommates. Get outside help call the Agency on Aging take act, check out local nursing homes for possible one day at a time care.
You are not going to be canonized for sainthood by sacrificing you health. Guess what if you don't take action you will be lying next to your care receiver...........Get moving
I have seen some people come into nursing homes and blossom because they see other people they can relate to, i.e. age, needs, illness. Make sure you surround your loved one with family portraits, portraits of favorite times in his/her life.
I loved all of my patients whom I cared for while working in the caregiving field. I would visit with them and hold conversations with them. I would bring them snacks if they could have them. It was not a perfect scenario but I truly believe caregivers like myself prolonged peoples' lives with as much dignity as possible.
Please take some of the advice others have given and get some help and some rest.
there are support groups available - someone in this chat group may be able to give you more specific answers as to where to find support. You are not a mean or bad person. They say God gives us only what we can handle...but sometimes He really pushes the button..tell Him so. He will guide you to a solution, You cannot continue to do all of this yourself. Prayers , Luann30