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Yes, some people on this forum have done that or have considered doing that. I hope that one or more of them will answer this question.
I can tell you this: People with moderate dementia almost always progress to severe dementia (unless they die of something else first.) So you really need to consider not only Mom's present care needs, but also what they might be next month or next year.
My husband stayed at home with me the full ten years of his dementia journey. I am certainly not opposed to family taking care of their loved ones at home! But it is a huge, huge commitment, and it will change your life.
When my mother could no longer live safely alone my newly-retired sister took her in. My sister does not regret that at all, but it was way more work than she anticipated. She has an extremely supportive husband. She had sisters that gave her respite two or three weekends a month. She had a nice special space for Mother, including her own bathroom where the riser could stay on the toilet. This lasted 14 months, I'd say through the period Assisted Living would have been appropriate. But the dementia progressed, and Mom's mobility issues progressed to the nursing home stage. Sister did a fabulous job as an Assisted Living caregiver, but no private home is a substitute for the level of care a nursing home has available 24/7.
To our great surprise, our mother thrived in the nh. She loved the live entertainment, the crafts, the bingo, eating meals with other people her own age, and the fact that she could get her hair done without leaving the building.
Here are some questions that might help others respond to your question:
1) Are you dissatisfied with the current care center? 2) Do you have a space you can dedicate to your mother, preferably with her own bathroom. 3) Are you or mother financially able to bring in help as needed? 4) What is your plan for respite care? (You absolutely MUST have a plan for this, in advance!) 5) Who else lives in your house? How do they feel about Mom living there? 6) In addition to the dementia, does Mom have other impairments or medical issues?
What ever you decide, I hope it turns out the best for all of you.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
I can tell you this: People with moderate dementia almost always progress to severe dementia (unless they die of something else first.) So you really need to consider not only Mom's present care needs, but also what they might be next month or next year.
My husband stayed at home with me the full ten years of his dementia journey. I am certainly not opposed to family taking care of their loved ones at home! But it is a huge, huge commitment, and it will change your life.
When my mother could no longer live safely alone my newly-retired sister took her in. My sister does not regret that at all, but it was way more work than she anticipated. She has an extremely supportive husband. She had sisters that gave her respite two or three weekends a month. She had a nice special space for Mother, including her own bathroom where the riser could stay on the toilet. This lasted 14 months, I'd say through the period Assisted Living would have been appropriate. But the dementia progressed, and Mom's mobility issues progressed to the nursing home stage. Sister did a fabulous job as an Assisted Living caregiver, but no private home is a substitute for the level of care a nursing home has available 24/7.
To our great surprise, our mother thrived in the nh. She loved the live entertainment, the crafts, the bingo, eating meals with other people her own age, and the fact that she could get her hair done without leaving the building.
Here are some questions that might help others respond to your question:
1) Are you dissatisfied with the current care center?
2) Do you have a space you can dedicate to your mother, preferably with her own bathroom.
3) Are you or mother financially able to bring in help as needed?
4) What is your plan for respite care? (You absolutely MUST have a plan for this, in advance!)
5) Who else lives in your house? How do they feel about Mom living there?
6) In addition to the dementia, does Mom have other impairments or medical issues?
What ever you decide, I hope it turns out the best for all of you.
https://www.agingcare.com/articles/living-with-elderly-parents-do-you-regret-the-decision-133798.htm plus there are over 300 comments.
Please read before you make your actual decision to move your Mom.