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My dad is moving in with me. I’am in Utah. He’s moving from Wyoming and I only have tub shower combos, I was wondering how or if there’s programs that will help me with financial help. Today is July 17 and I have He moves in The weekend of August 1.

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I agree with Geaton. If this is too much of an expense, do you have plans for covering the other expenses of having your father live with you? Since you live in separate states, how much time have you spent with him -- are you fully aware of and prepared for his needs?
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PeggySue2020 7 hours ago
Plus, asking the question just two weeks before he supposedly gets here could indicate a fuller lack of planning, a greater misunderstanding, of what his mobility is and what will have to happen regarding present and future home modifications. The op should not count on volunteers or charity, particularly expedited.
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Cannot afford it? There are many community closets, usually associated with local senior social services. Donated supplies are free. Ask if they have a shower chair that he gets seated outside of the shower and the seat slides in. Then purchase a dual hand held shower head usually found for under $100
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Listen to Geaton777 advice below. Read it twice!
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If dad is a Veteran the VA may help pay for renovations that will allow him to remain safely in your home.
If he is unsteady though you might want to try using a Shower Bench or seat. Get one with a back to provide more support though.
A hand held shower wand will help him manage the shower himself.

If you do look into putting in a walk in shower look for "Zero Entry" this will eliminate the 1 to 2 inch lip on the shower pan that is difficult to get over with a walker, wheel chair or even someone with mobility problems like neuropathy or drop foot.
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You can try your Office of Aging.

If you only have one bathroom I would not be putting just a shower in. It may make it hard to sell your house later. People who have children want a tub.

When I moved my Mother in, I had a powder room we were able to put a shower stall in. Because of the plumbing involved, it cost us about 7K. And I say us because I could not use Moms money in case she would need Medicaid in the next 5 years. It would have cost her a penalty because if we sold the house, we would have profited from having the shower.

There are rails that attach to the side of the tub that help someone get into the tub. As suggested, you use a shower chair and a hand held shower head is a must.
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If your bathroom has a floor drain, it may be much easier to set up a shower chair next to the bath, and put a hand held hose on the bath taps that can be used outside the bath. You might be able to do the same thing in the laundry.

Changing a bathroom is very expensive, and you don’t really know whether the move is going to work out. This might be a useful temporary experiment.
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If your bathroom has a floor drain, it may be much easier to set up a shower chair next to the bath, and put a hand held hose on the bath taps that can be used outside the bath. You might be able to do the same thing in the laundry.

Changing a bathroom is very expensive, and you don’t really know whether the move is going to work out. This might be a useful temporary experiment.
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Call 311 and your county’s area on aging. Put up a go fund me if that doesn’t work. If this all fails and dad can’t get into the bath as it is, perhaps your home isnt the best place for him.
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Our local Habitat for Humanity does some modifications.
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He needs to pay for it, not you. If you are working age and are planning to stay home to care for him, create a contract so that he pays you. He should also pay rent and his share of utilities. If neither of you can afford this then maybe consider a different arrangement, one where he doesn’t live with you.

Before he moves in I strongly recommend he assign you as his durable POA so that as he continues to decline you can legally manage his affairs. See an elder law attorney for this.

please go into this with your eyes wide open. There is very little financial assurance for in-home care. Once he gets into town contact socials for your county to see what services he qualify for, if any.
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Pose your question on your local Next Door group. You may find some recommendations. You can also contact your local Aging Agency for ideas. We did this for my dad as it was too expensive for him in his area. It was a great help to him. I wish you well in finding the best plan
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Probably not. We had to pay for my parents walk in shower. It cost about 10K to remove the tub and install the shower.with Bath Fitters.

it is also possible to do a tub to walk in shower conversion where the tub is cut. My sister had someone do that for her MIL. It worked well. That would be a lot cheaper option. Research that on line.
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Foamergirl 1 hour ago
Even though my husband is a Veteran we were over the income guidelines to get assistance. It cost us $6k to have a walk in shower built.
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You can try calling 211 to see if there are any agencies/programs in your area to help or call your local Area Agency on Aging.
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