I'm in NY, traveling up Boston. My mom was living independently, pretty much house-bound the last 4 years. She fell 18 days ago, nothing broken, but now is, after 10 days in rehab, having trouble regaining even the very limited mobility that she had before. She turned out to have severe anemia and a UTI, and was treated for both; also got some cortizol and steroids in her very bad arthritic knees. Chronic diarrhea. I've spent $3k in the last 3 weeks on plane flights, taxis, cars, elder care manager, other. Am at my wit's end on how to continue to care for her while working full-time. Don't have anyone local (i.e. friends or family) who can really take on the role of coordinating her care. Should I just hire a $150/hr elder care manager (insane) and take out a home equity loan on her house?
Just as an aside, I am both a GCM and former caregiver to my father who had dementia. My Mom will be moving in with me next May.
Best wishes and remember that you must take care of yourself, as well.
You will want to think long term, not just this one incident. Medicare will pay for 10 weeks rehab. You can slow down, and make intelligent long term plans with your Mother. Research all your options, home care, living with you, or near you in assisted living, or nursing home. Breathe, take the time to calm down and get it right. Again read both those books before you make any drastic changes. They will save you much heartache and money.
Good Luck,. stay in touch, we are here for you.