I'm in NY, traveling up Boston. My mom was living independently, pretty much house-bound the last 4 years. She fell 18 days ago, nothing broken, but now is, after 10 days in rehab, having trouble regaining even the very limited mobility that she had before. She turned out to have severe anemia and a UTI, and was treated for both; also got some cortizol and steroids in her very bad arthritic knees. Chronic diarrhea. I've spent $3k in the last 3 weeks on plane flights, taxis, cars, elder care manager, other. Am at my wit's end on how to continue to care for her while working full-time. Don't have anyone local (i.e. friends or family) who can really take on the role of coordinating her care. Should I just hire a $150/hr elder care manager (insane) and take out a home equity loan on her house?
He's the same guy who wouldn't do her knee 5 yrs ago b/c BP was high. So I want to get a 2nd and 3rd opinion.
And yes on care mgr. It only occurred to me sort of midway like -- why does she keep siding with the facility over me, on my dime? b/c they're source of clients. Oh well - live and learn!