I am the full time caregiver of my 88 year old mother, who has dementia. My brother, who became her power of attorney while she still lived on her own, has control over her social security check ($1020 per month) and her savings. (around $30,000) He gives me enough to cover her expenses, which I was fine with initially. However, my husband feels that we should be compensated for our time and effort also, seeing that Mom does have savings and receives a check every month. I am reluctant to broach the subject with my brother for fear of appearing to be selfish and a money grabber. Hubby feels we are being taken advantage of. This is causing some discord between hubby and me. Honest thoughts please.
When your mom is gone have the bills ready, do it weekly, even what you would charge to take care of her. Then when they read the will put you bill in. That should take care of it. I know I may have made some of you mad at my remark but you who believe in the bible, it says that a person who will not care for their family is worse than an unbeliever.
Hey here's a suggestion:
Hire an in home care giver for oh say 2 days per week. Give the agency your brother's address as the billing address and since he takes care of the money, don't ask him, just tell him this is what you're doing. Don't look for any if, ands, buts, or whys, just have it all figured out and let him know that he'll be getting this bill.