I am a live-in caregiver who is being abused, mainly by my elderly patient's son. He abuses me physically (police called 3times), emotional, verbally, financially.....every day he berates/belittles/humiliates me in malicious manner. I have lived here 2.5 years, and have never had one day off. I get paid VERY LITTLE under the table. I never leave, and he will not even take me to the food store. I have begged him for help with medical care to no avail. Now, my back is injured, and I'm practical crawling, and he made it worse by slamming me into a cabinet. He wont sign documents of residence for low-cost clinic for medical care. He has thrown me off mattress to sleep on floor and claims I cannot use facilities. I haven't left because I have nowhere to go. This family has resources. They call me white trash. I have no family, nowhere to go, and desperately wish to keep my 4 cats/family. Advice?
“They always say 'why does she go back?' Because there’s a lack of resources in this city for our women being impacted by domestic violence. It doesn’t take a scientist to figure this out,” she said
Great report, but my report says we need more shelters in our city, bottom line,” Nixon Bowles said.
Last year there was a woman who posted as ShakingDustOff, with posts that ranged from actually insightful to others that were rants and raves with talk about devils. Eventually I began to wonder if she had multiple personalities.
She too often posted about how abused she was.
For all I know both posts might have been by the same person.
There was also another one that was suspicious but it was halted very quickly and I think is dead for now.
IT SCREAMS, I AM A TROLL. Lesson learned. Of course, this person would pick a site such as this (caregivers are giving people), say she is a caregiver too, then start the animal routine which led to the finale. I have to hand it to her. Hey Dallas MT (isn't that the name of some Team?), you are really good at this. Over 100 wasted posts. I am sure youre reading this. Will you come back and explain how wrong we are?
Angel
I think these comments by Dallas are also interesting:
'Here's for you animal lovers/advocates: I'm sitting here, so exhausted and frazzled from trying to find a place to live, and all I can think about is helping animals."
(Oh, pul-leeze! Does she think we're idiots?)
Years ago one of the Senate committees held a hearing on fraud in "charitable" solicitations, forcing out the fact that many of the tear jerker letters were in fact written by beltway bandits sitting in the DC area in air conditioned offices pretending to be elsewhere....out in fields or rundown houses rescuing pets from abuse, slogging through rain forests looking for remains of POWs, MIAs, whatever....
One story I'll never forget was a letter soliciting funds to search for MIAs from the Vietnam war.
It read almost like the first quote in this post:
"Here I am sitting in (a ship was named but I don't remember what it was ) in the Gulf of Tonkin, thinking of all the men who went missing and haven't been located since the end of the Vietnam War...."
Gee, doesn't that sound like Dallas' approach? Hmmmmm ... using a fund raising tactic, and eventually raising the issue of needing money...anyone else see similarities?
Then there's the comment:
"I'm talking to you lil you are my friends....i hope that you are....."
Unbelievable, just really unbelievable that someone thinks we're such dupes as to be fooled by this patronizing remark.
I would never break the "private message" privacy policy...but felt that you all had a right to know. She DID have an offer of a safe place--but didn't take it. This speaks volumes to me, how about the rest of you?
I've seen those kinds of posts you mentioned as well, including on DIY sites. One woman requested crowd funding to help her rehab an old shack she allegedly bought, presenting a sob story of how she was trying to preserve history, blah, blah, blah.
One astute poster cut her sob story short by advising that if she wanted to remodel a junky shack, she should have obtained funding for it before starting. Others put her in her place as well.
Whether (a) she really was the woman in the photo standing next to the shack or whether she was a man or someone sitting in a dark basement finding sites on which to post sob stories to sucker people out of money, or (b) whether the shack shown on the website was really hers or not.....will never be known. But at least she was put in her place and stopped soliciting on the DIY forum.
May I ask where you are located? I can't believe that there is nowhere for you to go! This IS abuse, and I also cannot believe that the police don't do anything.
Your love for your cats is greater than your love for yourself. You say nothing about the person for whom you are caregiving. How can you do this if you are unable to walk? You are being abused and by connection, your client is being abused. Call Elder care services. YOU are an elder, too. Call neighbors, call the local churches--seriously, you are going to wind up dead if you don't move.
No women's domestic shelter in my state would turn you away (altho, if you insist on keeping the cats--that may be problematic for a while--not everyone loves cats and many people are horribly allergic) I don't want to put you down, but you have received great advice so far---you've got to get out of there and fast. Obviously you are a loving person...so love yourself for a while and GET OUT. Wishing you all the best and scared for you, too!