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@Windyridge - Up until I moved mom here to take care of her, I had a 2nd job in a ladies clothing store. We saw confused and forlorn men in the store - and especially in the "intimate apparel" section - at least a few times a week, plus many times a day right before any gift-giving holidays! No worries, you are NOT alone. :-)

@Rie144 - I miss the quiet too! Desperately! Sometimes too much noise makes me jumpy.  But I did just get mom to binge both seasons of Stranger Things with me, so I should remember to be grateful she is open to newer stuff. :-)
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All of it. It is so strange. Having to be at home and with the tv on all the time. I am beginning to hate all those old shows. Mom doesn't like anything modern. I miss the quiet but that is ok. At least mom can stay with us.
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Medical research expert because the person who has the condition won't look up the info about treatments because she is playing games on her computer. No joke....
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Picture this ladies. Sixty three yr old man, me, entering dept store with 86 year old moms undies and bra in a plastic groc bag to try and match sizes due to tags being worn off. Luckily a sweet older women clerk noticed my forlorn look, pitched in to help and saved the day.

The stuff fit perfectly but of course mom complained. They just weren’t quite like her stuff from 1957.
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Where do I start. Black head remover, toenail trimmer, colostomy caregiver, potty chair cleaner. Those were are the tough ones for an originally squeamish person.
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Ha ha! Rainmom, that is such a strong visual, it belongs in one of those Focker Family movies!! :-D
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I got the official duty of C.C.C. Cat Claw Clipper. I do believe, I was suspose to consider it an honor. God Lord - my mother loved that cat. She had nearly an entire page devoted to his care and comfort in her DPOA document!

Huge cat. He didn’t like me much even before my promotion.

Enough said.
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Oh gosh. Mom is finally ready to go to the hairdresser since I started staying here and picking up the pieces. I never thought of what that will be like!!!! I booked the appointment for next Tuesday....she wants a perm....
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Oh yeah cwillie,the beauty shop was something else!One good thing though was that the hairdresser could pull out the chair so I could get Mom there in her wheelchair and that was handy......I never dreamed I'd be putting in Mother's curls every night though,but then we all had to be jacks of trades .Drivers,hairdressers,waiters,maids,entertainment committees,bathgivers,you name it and WE DID IT!
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Kind of like me taking mom to the hairdresser for her weekly wash and set. When I first moved home I would just take her in and go, but as she began to need more help I pulled up a chair to wait with all the other old ladies.
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I didn't expect having to attend Mother's groups with her and her friends every week atleast once a week and usually more and while I had some really tasty lunches,I was always uncomfortable being there because it was Mother's friends and I felt like I should stay out of their conversations.I just felt out of place.
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I became the clock-master. When the time changed (like this weekend), I'd have to go over the day before and change all of mom's clocks (my dad loved clocks, so mom still had a lot of clocks). Then I'd have to write her a note to tell her the clocks were an hour ahead (or behind) until the next day. Mom died this May, so this is the first time I didn't have to remember to go over to change her clocks.
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Here's an old thread you might find amusing...

www.agingcare.com/discussions/you-know-you-are-caregiver-if-163390.htm
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My Mom is gone now but one task I took on that I never ever thought I'd be responsible for was shaving her chin hairs. At one point she looked like she was growing a beard, no lie. When I realized no one else was going to do it, it became my job among other things.
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That's fair. All those things for me, too - I guess I was sort of hoping for stories of the "lighter side" of weird, lol.

All I knew about caregiving, or had read about as possibilities I never expected babysitting the television to be on the list! :-)
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Dorianne, the whole da...ed journey is filled with weird, maybe not all of it every day but every day something.

The first time I trimmed mom's toenails -helped her shower-wiped her bum-cut her hair-.............

The frustration of navigating the healthcare system and home care, talking to "experts" who should know better than you do but seemingly don't.

The days you realize she doesn't really remember who you are, or who she is either.

BUT, hopefully you find some positives in your caregiving experiences too.
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