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Anxiety,

I would enjoy seeing fall foliage. I have to travel north to see the leaves changing colors.

I don’t like cold weather at all. I think snow is beautiful but I would have to get used to living in a place where snowfall was commonplace.

It amazes me that my youngest daughter fell in love with the cold weather and the snow when she lived in Denver. She hates the humidity and heat that we have here in the summer.
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Anxiety,

Tulips are so beautiful! Hope yours survive the snow!

Newbie,

Mallards are so pretty. The colors are gorgeous. Y’all have the most delicious lobster! I enjoy going to New England in the fall. We had delicious lobsters in Kennebunkport, Maine. Maine is lovely.

Here in the south, we don’t have four distinct seasons. We never have a long brutal winter. Spring is brief and our summers are hot and humid! Not much of an autumn here. No beautiful fall foliage.
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Anxietynacy, where are you? I'm in Maine (coastal, southern) and all of a sudden what was originally forecast to be snow followed by rain seems to have changed to a forecast of mainly snow plus some sleet, 6-10 inches interior, maybe 4-8 where I am. My daffodils are up, but fortunately not too high yet. The mallard ducks are back on the nearby pond, other birds seem to be back as well. I think we had spring in the late winter and now we're getting winter in the early spring. :-)
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Happy Spring, everyone! 🌱🍃🌿🌸🌱🌼🌱🌷🌱🌺🍃🌿🌱

What are y’all planting this spring season?
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Science tell us that genetics and lifestyle do make a difference but ultimately life is a crap shoot, you can do everything right and die young or you can party hard and live to be 100.
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llama - I am glad your visit went well. I am not nervous at a dentist any more as I have been so often. I can assess a dentist and hygienist very quickly, I like these new ones.

need - prayers for a good report for your hub. R had routine follow up scans the other day and we are waiting for the results. It's not nice. Wow 46 years. Awesome!!!

nacy - I just couldn't take the risk!

I wish the dentist would acknowledge that I must be doing something right even if it is not altogether what they suggest. Dr's too, A few years ago as my dr was away, I went to my dd's dr for my driver's medical and she looked at me and at my info and said "There must be something wrong here." I said , "No. I am (at that time) 84 and I can do squats." and proceeded to show her. I told her I don't go to my dr very often. With a frown on her face, her answer was "You'd better get to your doctor".

Why? I wasn't sick! I just needed a driver's medical.
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My husband has his follow up visit tomorrow to see how he is doing since his prostate cancer treatments.

These things always make me a bit anxious. My husband has never been one to complain very much. He’s an optimist and doesn’t worry excessively. I tend to hold my emotions inside so that I won’t upset him.

I am one of those annoying people who wants to look at all possible outcomes. He takes things one step at the time and is more analytical than I am. I suppose that is why he is the engineer in the family and I am a creative person in other areas of our lives.

We do balance each other and I would be lost without him. I have always wanted to die before him. Hopefully, we have many years together yet. Our 46th anniversary is coming up soon. Our daughters say they are going to throw us a huge party on our 50th wedding anniversary!

I still remember going to my parents church for a 50th wedding anniversary Mass and the celebration afterwards. Mom and dad were married 56 years.

My brothers and I were laughing because the priest was talking about what cigarettes and beer costs back when they married. My OB chuckled and whispered in my ear, “Only in a Catholic Mass would we be hearing this in an anniversary sermon!” LOL 😆

Please send good thoughts and prayers our way.

Thanks.
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Golden: I, too, had a dental appointment today. I have been a nervous wreck due to having to wait 4 months to see a new dentist. I have an expensive mouth. Due to insomnia issues, I found a new dentist a mile from my house. Bottom line - it wasn't as bad as I thought. I am so glad to hear that you also experienced a good dental report. I purposely did not look at a friend's social media post as she wanted 11 teeth out. Your own teeth are always best.
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My relatives on mother's side were Norwegian and Swedish - probably Vikings way back! On my father's side seafaring English and Welsh. Mother was the one interested in genealogy but she didn't get further back than about 1700's I think. No scallywags that I know of.

On my mind today - teeth!!!

I hadn't been to the dentist for a number of years for a variety of reasons - covid being one. I decided I would rather have teeth issues than risk covid and long covid. Before that I went regularly and have had a lot of work done.

They did x-rays, and the hygienist started cleaning. Then the dentist walked in and said "Your teeth are good!!!"

Wow, what a blessing!!!

She also said "Whatever we can do you've got it" She was referring to implants, a bridge, crowns, root canal...She's right! And I want to keep them.

I will go back for them to finish the cleaning and for some work to build up some teeth (front bottom) to improve my bite. I prefer to keep my teeth if I can. I am still amazed and blessed at having no cavities. That's got to be a first for me!😊
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One of my relatives was a Hessian soldier who fought for the British at the Battle of Trenton against the Continental Army. He was captured. George Washington left him behind at a farm to be used as a farm worker/prisoner as a thank you to the landowner for letting the Continental Army camp on the farm land.
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Family trees are so interesting, you never know what you will find. I did a family tree for a friend and was able to go back to the 1400's as England kept excellent census. Found Sir Francis Drake was "related" to my friend, but he was a twig off a branch of another branch of yet another branch, etc. off of a major branch, so not a direct relation.

When doing genealogy, you get half of your DNA from your mom, and half from your dad. That means you have about 25% your 4 grandparents' DNA... about 12.5% of your 8 great-grandparents' DNA.... about 6.25% of your 16 great-great-grandparents.... 3.12% of your 32 great-great-great-grandparents. .... 1.56% of your 64 great-great-great-great-grandparents. The percentages are not exact as we can inherit a bit larger chuck of DNA scattered within the groups.
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My ancestors were stomping grapes in Italy back then. 😂
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Oops , I meant Chester A. Arthur’s mother being a second or third cousin to my great great grandfather . So I guess there is some blood relation there .

I have a copy of family genealogy. I looked . Chester A. Arthur’s mother’s grandfather ( on her mother’s side ) was my ancestor that stowed away on the ship . He and his brother that came with him to America fought in the Continental Army during the American Revolution .
My grandfather had the same last name as the men who stowed away on the ship . So he was a direct descendant .
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I should clarify that my ancestors were related to Chester A. Arthur by marriage not blood . I’m not 100 % sure how . Something about his wife being second or third cousins to my ancestors .
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Way,

I find it fascinating to read about our ancestors. That’s a fun story about your ancestors. I hope you have passed it along to your children! I bet they would get a kick out of hearing it.
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I have an interesting story of how my grandfather’s ancestors came to America from England . I was told that the ancestor was “ dating “ out of his class. He had been sneaking around with the daughter of a Lord , ( or some title like that ). He was a carpenter and met her while doing work at her family’s home . My ancestor was a lower class and not permitted to date this young woman. Well, the father of the young woman went to King George III about it to have my ancestor caught and serve time in prison , possibly executed .

My ancestor found out that he was “ wanted”. So he and his brother stowed away on a ship to America sometime in the late 1700’s.
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Anxiety ,

My ancestors were related to one of the “ so called useless “ Presidents. Chester A. Arthur . Haha.
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Thanks, River

Irish culture is interesting. It’s fun to study our ancestral heritage and history.
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Need,Lovely message. It is so nice to see celebratory messages of that day that is not all about too much drinking.
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I would love to have massage every day!
Was in Mexico and managed few, not as cheap as it used to be, few years ago you could go for $20-30 per hour.
Now about $60.00.
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I could use a massage . I scrubbed the shower today. Oh those shower door tracks . 🙄🥺Hate them . I have hard water .
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Way,

My daughter swears by massages too. She was injured in a terrible automobile accident years ago. She has neck and back pain and massages help her.
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Aniexty,

Enjoy your massage!
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@Anxietynacy

OMG, you will love it! Message is AWESOME!! You will feel great.
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My daughter swears by massages .
I don’t think I would be able to relax .
I would rather try a facial ( which I’ve never done either).
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Happy St. Patrick’s Day ☘️!

I have Irish ancestry on my dad’s side of the family.

Irish Blessing

May the road rise up to meet you.

May the wind always be at your back.

May the sun shine warm upon your face, the rain fall soft upon your fields, and until we meet again,

May God hold you in the hollow of his hand.

How about a quote from Oscar Wilde? One of my favorite Irish people.

I am not young enough to know everything.
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I tried to do it all. Ultimately I chose to mother my 3 children, which infuriated my elderly mother. I am happy with my decision.
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Blickbob, God bless your FB friend for his selflessness. I however am not qualified to run a nursing home for two 95 yo people out of their home. It’s just not possible and I don’t make a very good martyr.

I’m writing this sitting across from my parents at the NH, just because they are here does not mean they have been abandoned. Please pass that on to your pal.
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blickbob,
Consider referring your FB friend to our site?
Would be an education, don't you think?
And you KNOW how I love to argue!!
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So, I have this FB friend who made a post. It's a picture of someone holding the hands of an older individual. He had the following as a caption:

"I'm sorry, but I get triggered when I see good parents grow old and then left alone by the children that they raised. It is disturbing, disappointing, and a bad example set for the younger ones to see. Check on your people, love them, pray for them, go to their place and make sure that they are good. They raised you, do not leave them alone because a job demands it or a nonsensical religious belief says so. Christ doesn't want that, I assure you. Do better before it's too late. We have a limited amount of time with our loved ones, make as many memories as you can!"

He's two years older than me and I don't think he's seen or heard about caregiving cases like mine and cases from others on here. This isn't the case with everyone, but not all the parents were good to their kids. Not all the kids are actually capable or able to tend to them 24/7. Some of the aging parents actually belong in a nursing home.

God may not want us to abandon our parents altogether. He doesn't want one or both parents to enslave their kids either and kick them around. One woman commented and said she wouldn't trade the 3 years she spent tending to her mother who was battling cancer for anything. I'd give anything to have the first decade plus of my adult life back that was lost to caregiving. I wish this was all one bad dream and I'd wake up and see my mom fully mobile, my dad alive, and see myself with my own family and a job.

As someone noted in an old forum a few years back, there'd be a lot less responses if someone asked how many people love caregiving.
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