
Replacing the much lamented 'On My Mind' profile option, this thread is for musings, jottings, whimsies, preoccupations and the rest of the thesaurus for anyone to jot down anything they please.
I can't remember what the maximum character count was before, can anyone else? But anyway it wasn't very many so let's keep to that.
I wanted to point out a false statement that was in the editorial as well as how past articles in this newspaper were very slanted towards one side of the issue and would cherry pick certain aspects of the issue , thus perpetuating the divide .
By the time they butcher edited my letter they had it completely turned around that I agreed with the writer of the editorial on the issue . which I did not. They printed this awful letter with my name on it. I then wrote another letter to the editor regarding the fact that their editing totally changed the message in my letter . That letter of course was not printed . It was ignored totally .
It becomes absurd, because then the only permissible things to write on the forum, are like:
"poor, poor you"
"you're so great OP"
"you're such a victim in all of this"
"you're doing all the right things OP"
"there isn't a single thing you're doing wrong"
etc.
This site takes down whole paragraphs. I've had everything I've written on a thread removed bt the admins with no explanation whatsoever.
I can only speculate why. The people running the place may find plain language and being truthful "offensive". Who knows?
That is not the AC Admins fault, I am sure. 🤣
It’s certainly possible. Would be interesting to know if that is the case.
I agree with you on changing words.
If words are changed or deleted it can change the context of the message.
As you say, these aren’t words that are derogatory or offensive, so why should they be censored?
I appreciate your feedback.
I noticed your totally normal sentence being deleted.
By the way, it wasn't because you read the profile.
AC/admin deleted it because you mentioned the word "envy".
There is nothing wrong with saying envy.
Admin decided to leave your other sentence where you explained why OP appeared envious. But admin decided to delete your 1st sentence with "envy", I suppose because it might hurt OP's feelings.
I completely disagree with admin's decision to delete your sentence. It's not a disrespectful sentence. It's a hypothesis that maybe OP does feel envy.
Similarly, one of my sentences was deleted by AC/admin. An OP had lied, I pointed it out because it was relevant for the advice I gave OP. Admin deleted my sentence about lying.
It's censorship.
And by the way, it's a good thing I pointed out the lie, so that other forum members don't waste their time on that one detail, which was a false detail. Sometimes my advice/replies aren't just for OP, but also to warn other forum members.
I'm glad it's still allowed to write "troll". I saw that comment of mine wasn't deleted, regarding another OP.
Our freedom of expression and opinion, is being limited, also for normal/respectful sentences.
I used the word crucified in my first sentence because the OP did in her question .This sentence was removed . But OP that states she was crucified by other forum members remains in her question .
Exactly. I noticed it for totally normal sentences.
It's been happening especially since AC started the 3-strike policy a few days ago. They now started also deleting sentences. I almost feel like our freedom of expression is being limited quite A LOT.
Again, I'm not talking about disrespectful sentences, nastiness, etc...
I mean the freedom to express our opinions.
After all, caregiving is sort of like being a parent .
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What you said…..
Frame that. Put it up on a wall !!!
@Golden ,
So true. It takes effort to care for yourself , even while dealing with a family member that is in a facility . Even when someone is in a facility the stress can be great …..(for example ) time to have awful visit with FIL today . 😭. We have to tell him we are not driving him 5-6 hours ( summer beach traffic ) to his wife’s grave for a one year (unveiling of the tombstone ) memorial that his stepchildren are hosting . FIL can not travel , too frail and he needs his own very accessible bathroom .
I will add myself to the list of those who did not take as good care of myself as I would have normally, but I didn't let it go entirely. I got my cataracts done, tooth implants, regular meds etc. I went on holidays, had a separate life but the stress still impacted me. Looking back I think I would have done better to distance and detach more. Take it more as a job and avoid the interpersonal stuff more than I did. It would have been easier on me.
I like what you wrote!
I want to say I couldn't agree with you more about caregiving for a parent.
It can be like a bottomless pit and literally can cost a person their life.
I can say honestly for myself that I'd rather have every negative emotion there is (guilt, regret, sadness, etc...) about putting someone into managed care then live with the constant stress and anxiety about who will take care of them if I can't. No way.
What happens - happens. I've known people who were caregivers to a parent that dropped dead suddenly or like you required hospitalization. Their parent ended up care facilty and lived out their lives.
No one should have to be living in such a situation that their entire life has to center around taking care of an elderly parent or loved one who's already lived their life.
Everyone gets one life. No one has a right to use up another person's. That's not love. That's selfishness.
Whenever I hear about a person being forced to promise that they will never put mom or dad in a "home" it makes me sick. To me that kind of extortion selfish narcissisism at it's very purest. Truly, it makes me sick.
I know so many people who've paid dearly because they were forced to make that heinous "promise". Marriages and families broken up, kids robbed of their childhoods, caregivers getting sick because they neglect their own health.
When there is real love in a family, the parents don't ask this of their children. When it's real love in a marriage, spouses don't either.
I may have seen that episode. I love Lisa Ling. She’s a great reporter. I have watched Our America. Good show.
Thanks for reminding me about those.
If you need something to watch, Our America w/Lisa Ling S2 Ep20(The secret lives of seniors)It's an old episode but pretty interesting
So, he couldn’t visit me in the hospital. My daughter was a senior in high school and I remember praying to God to please let me live to attend her graduation, be with my husband and daughters, plus take care of my mom.
My husband was in bed with the flu. My mom and my younger daughter were pretty much fending for themselves. My older daughter came over and helped out as much as she could. Thank God, mom could still do some things on her own then.
It just becomes too much at times when we are caregiving at home. It can all be avoided if we have additional help or better still, if our parents are in a facility!
Then we can live our lives without the additional stress of being a full time caregiver. It’s unnerving not knowing who will care for our loved ones when we aren’t able to.