I have my narcissist mother living in my home and would gladly give up my inheritance for someone to take her off my hands. If anyone has the chance to have someone else take care of them, I think you should let them, and run as fast as you can because it is hell. If it depends on the nursing home getting your inheritance, then let them have it. There are some ways around that tho. But I had to feel guilty and take this mean woman that is my mom out of the nursing home and she is in her mind, bearly, but enought to say "I am not going back" and that is all it takes and you are stuck.
Shame is the feeling that lurks beneath all unhealthy narcissism, and the inability to process shame in healthy ways.
Magical thinking
Narcissists see themselves as perfect using distortion and illusion known as magical thinking. They also use projection to dump shame onto others.
Arrogance
If a narcissist is feeling deflated, he can reinflate himself by diminishing, debasing or degrading somebody else.
Envy
If the narcissist's need to secure a sense of superiority meets an obstacle because of somebody else, he neutralises it using contempt to minimise the other person's ability.
Entitlement
Narcissists hold unreasonable expectations of [...] automatic compliance because they consider themselves uniquely special. Any failure to comply will be considered an attack on their superiority. [...]
Exploitation
can take many forms but always involves the using of others without regards for their feelings or interests. [...]
Bad Boundaries
narcissists do not recognize that they have boundaries and that others are separate and are not extensions of themselves. Others either exist to meet their needs or may as well not exist at all. [...]