After being in Memory Care since June of 2019, and after taking 55 falls due to advanced dementia, my mother is now transitioning and taking the final leg of her journey on earth. It came unexpectedly, although she's been declining for the past 6 months. I believe she had a TIA about 12 days ago b/c her upper lip was droopy and she was slumping over more than usual in her wheelchair. The hospice nurse advised that TIA are oftentimes precursors to bigger events down the road. On Sunday of this week, she could no longer sit up in her wheelchair & had to be moved into her easy chair in her apartment. On Tuesday she went to bed and has been there ever since. I feel like she may have had a real stroke, but we'll never know for sure.
She's now developed a fever and is short of breath; the nurse feels heart failure is at play. She's being kept comfortable by hospice, who's been marvelous since they accepted her in late December. I've been visiting her every day & listening to her whisper to someone she's having a conversation with that I can't see. It's probably one of her beloved late sister's she's been talking about incessantly for months now. :)
We are scheduled to leave for AZ next Friday for my DH to have a liver transplant at the Mayo Clinic in Phoenix. We can postpone the trip if necessary, by about a week or so. I don't feel like my mother is going to last too much longer in this condition, though, but only God knows her future.
Please keep us in your prayers if you are so inclined, as this is a particularly difficult time with mom's transition and an impending liver transplant coming up. I fluctuate between feeling relieved that her pain & suffering is coming to an end, and incredibly sad at the same time for having to bury my mother. I'm sure you can relate to that mixed bag of emotions.
Thanks in advance to all who read this and send their prayers/good vibes/well wishes. You are appreciated.
I'm very sorry for your loss and prayers for you and your family.
I also fervently pray that your husband gets his transplant and recovers fully and well, so you can have many more happy years together without the specter of caregiving hanging over your head.
(((hugs)))
my deepest condolences to you. and wishing everything good for your husband, and for you.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Safe journey and much success on the surgery for your DH.
I pray now that you can concentrate fully on your husband(and yourself too)and that everything goes well with his transplant. Your mother will now be his angel looking out for him from above.
God bless you and your husband as you now take this next step in his journey.
My condolences for your loss.
Many prayers for your comfort at this difficult time.
May God protect you, and keep you, and give you peace. 🕯
I'm so glad that you'll be able to remember your mom with peace and that she had a positive impact upon the folks who cared for her.
I’m so sorry for your loss. sending biggest love to you and your family. I hope your husband surgery goes well.
take care
xxx
We can leave for AZ soon without the worry of mom's declining health hanging over us, thank God. We're waiting for a call from thr Mayo clinic tomorrow to see about driving down there.
Thank you to all who have reached out with kindness at this difficult time. I appreciate it,
So sorry to read this post. No more falls for your sweet mom. Know that we are keeping watch with you.
sending much love and thinking of you all xxx
And the best wishes for your husband's upcoming operation.
Ohmygoodness that really is too much to keep calm about all at once. Take care to take some care of you, won't you x