Hey folks, welcome to the new whine/general topic thread. Feel free to use this thread to discuss anything that is on your mind. Caregiving- related stuff, life after a loved one's death, your own emotional wellbeing. Whatever..........anything on your mind.
Now I am thinking of donating them to the health care workers because of the shortages, but it is such a small gesture.
For sure, I will not be wearing one out in public because people may riot, rip it off my face, and tar and feather me for having planned ahead.
Just sayin'.
The school shootings have stopped.
Everyone is coughing, sniffling and exhibiting what could be cold symptoms.
Ugh!
Sigh....................
Are you Irish? I am on daddy’s side. Irish/Scottish. Our St. Patrick’s parades cancelled, boo hoo.
Cwillie our grocer was also crazy! I needed Windex for the river house, and it was almost all gone.. Windex?? WTH? But plenty of bleach.. maybe people have forgotten in the "old days" we diluted it and put it in a spray bottle to wipe things down,, now they are fixated on the wipes,, less messy I will agree, but it does the same job. Just use a scrub cloth and watch your clothes!
What was I buying? Dog and cat food!! And the stuff for St Patricks day dinner! You know where my priorities lie...
Only in New Orleans moment just now on our television news! The mayor just said they are not going to limit the sale of alcohol. What??? Too funny!
She stated all important issues such as how many are infected in our city, closing of schools, etc. Then talks about no alcohol restrictions! Geeeeez!
So, everyone come get a drink here in New Orleans! Hahaha. Well, this is why our driving insurance is higher her. We have ‘drive through’ bars here!
Honestly, I am sort of surprised our St. Patty day parades were cancelled. This city loves parades!
Public safety must come first. They are trying to address the childcare issues with the closing of schools. Will be interesting...
Our city does rely on tourism. Upcoming festival cancellations are going to hurt.
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Do you have TP on your mind?
Too too funny. 🎒🔓
All my TP is on l o c k d o w n in an emergency backpack.
Ready to go.
My therapist told me something similar before. “Take your power back! Don’t give your power away. Remove toxic people from your life. Don’t allow anyone to steal your joy.”
It’s true. Your brother isn’t a part of your life. My brothers aren’t part of mine.
Hey, they screwed up! Not us. They brought their problems on themselves. If someone mistreats us, they made the wrong choice. It doesn’t mean we have to put up with their foolishness.
Karma! He will get egged in one way or another, right? It’s not that I purposely wish anyone any harm. It’s part of life. If not in this life, there is judgment in the afterlife.
I do pray that others will be forgiven and shown mercy. That took a long time for me to reach that point and sometimes it takes suffering on their end to show any remorse and ask for forgiveness.
You and I definitely don’t fall for their bait! People who constantly bully others are unstable and insecure. That isn’t an off day. Everyone has off days. Their whole lives are off!
Here we have a Victim Unit and they won't give me a Person Protection Order PPO because he hasn't beat me up or threaten me.
I just feel like he is abusing me (in a way) and is getting a way with it again.
I wouldn't egg his truck because that is not the answer...I know...heavy sigh!!
I do know that one day he will do something and get caught. It is just a matter of time.
Sometimes a restraining order is necessary. My daughter had to get one for an ex boyfriend. I know it’s not going to prevent an action of an unstable person but it is good in the sense of having a recorded document filed in court and it gives police permission to arrest an individual. So, yeah you have a good suggestion if it is needed down the line.
Here’s the thing though. You have to have significant proof of a real threat to get an order of protection. My daughter did. She had a great attorney as well and a wonderful judge who was extremely fair heard the case.
It was insane of him to rob a bank. There is no defending that type of action. I have had a gun pointed at my heart. I know how terrifying it is to be robbed at gunpoint.
My summer job as a teen was working at a convenience store. I got robbed. Stupid me, I completely froze when I saw the gun pointing at my heart. I couldn’t move. Not a good time to panic and freeze but I was only 18 and very scared.
I stood there like a frozen dummy until the robber said to me that if I didn’t hand over the money he would shoot me in the heart and be dead.
When I heard the word ‘dead’ I snapped out of my panicked state and then went into begging mode. Oh my God, I went from shock to pleading for my life, saying that I was only 18 and wanted a chance to live my life.
It worked, because I saw his eyes soften. I heard compassion in his voice as he said, “If you do everything that I ask I will not hurt you.”
I was too young to realize that he could be lying to me and I believed him. I suppose I was naive being as young as I was. Anyway, I gave him all of the money in the register. Then he says to me, “I said, give me all of the money!”
I was confused and said to him, “That is all of the money. Can’t you see my empty cash drawer?” He says, “I want the money underneath the floorboards.”
I completely forgot about the change we kept under there so he obviously had inside info on the store. We kept the bags of quarters, nickels, dimes and pennies there. So I gave him that.
Then he told me to lie face down on the floor and give him 15 minutes to get away. That’s when I got scared thinking oh crap, he’s going to shoot me in the back. I remember staring at the clock for 15 minutes to pass before calling the cops.
I called the police and they were there in minutes. I looked through tons of mug shots. The police were kind and said that I did the right thing by following his instructions and waiting the 15 minutes to call. They told me the same as my boss told me, “Hand over the money in a robbery. Don’t risk my life over money.” The police asked me soon afterwards to go to a line up but I couldn’t make a positive identification.
It’s a horrible fear to be robbed at gun point. I begged my brother not to commit an armed robbery. His answer to me was completely selfish. He said, “I can’t think about others. I need money.” Blew my mind! Desperate people sometimes do desperate things.
My parents were crushed. What did my mom say afterwards? “Daddy and I are going to your brother’s court hearing to show support. Do you want to join us?” I told her, “He’s your son. Do what you feel that you have to do. I am not going!”
Most criminals are not able to pull it off. They get caught and serve a sentence. My brother later regretted doing what he did. He was different when he got out. Prison changes people. Sometimes for the better. Sometimes they become worse. I was even more afraid of him when he first came out. It’s hard to explain. They are different. Later on, he mellowed. Sometimes he was tolerable. Sometimes I wanted to love him completely like I did as a very young child before his drug usage but I never completely trusted him. Like you with your brother I always had my guard up, eventually cutting him out of my life until he was in the end of life hospice facility.
What a waste, right? Our lives are a gift. I can’t imagine how it would feel to waste my life. All of us have a purpose in life. The biggest purpose is that we show love and respect for each other and contribute to our world, not to cause harm and take away from others. We do have to remove toxic people from our lives. They will drain us if we don’t.
Sorry this message is so long. It’s emotional still to this day. He died in 2013.
You’re a good person, Shell. I know this is hard for you. I know it isn’t much to offer but I hope it’s a small comfort to know I stand behind you and your feelings and actions.
Take care, Shell. Many hugs!