Hey folks, welcome to the new whine/general topic thread. Feel free to use this thread to discuss anything that is on your mind. Caregiving- related stuff, life after a loved one's death, your own emotional wellbeing. Whatever..........anything on your mind.
I'm sure you all are sick of hearing about it by now but I just have to say that if I ever needed a lesson to be careful, this is it. I am beyond frustrated to say the least. I've never been what you'd call a really active person but at least I knew I could be if I wanted to. Now that I can't that's all I want to do.
I always appreciated my mobility and never took it for granted especially when I was caring for my mom. I've always been thankful to God for my health. So I'm not quite sure what the lesson is that I've been given in this situation. I guess I'll know when I learn it.
But I do believe this life on earth is about lessons and passing on what we have learned to help the next person.
One thing I've learned. Not that I really needed to fracture my foot to know this, is how selfish and uncaring my siblings are. I e-mailed my sister and cced everyone else in that Christmas at her place would most likely have to be a last minute decision depending on how my foot is healing. Not one response. No, so sorry you hurt yourself, nothing! I e-mailed her last Sunday. If I don't hear anything my decision to attend will have been made for me.
I never wanted to go in the first place but I had been considering it just because, but............. how does that saying go? Definition of insanity. Repeating the same behaviour and expecting a different result? I guess I must be insane cause I'm always hoping things will change re: my family. Not expecting a different result but hoping nonetheless.
of course...words of wisdom:
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"Why not treat yourself to a good time instead of waiting for someone else to do it?"
It's December already? What the heck, how did I miss the end of the month?
Speaking of which I found an outfit - slim pants (almost leggings) with ruching at the bottom of the legs, loose fitting tank, and long sweater all made of a soft knit material that looks great and keeps me oh so warm when I am sitting. I bought 2 of them - one in sage and one in berry. They are my advance Christmas present to me. I'm giving a couple of them to my dgd (dark charcoal and a sage)for Christmas as dd said she would like them. It's like wearing pjs!!! and I am in a size down from usual. Yeah!!!\
I'm still working on losing a few more lbs. When R came up and hadn't seen me since I lost about 10 lbs, he said I looked more like my dd. I take that as a compliment. I want to lose another 10 or so. It's not easy for me! All my life my body conserves energy. so when I diet I get cold and don't lose weight much, and when I exercise I gain weight - I put on muscle very easily. Put me on a desert island with other people and no food, and I will last longer than anyone else and I don't mean cannibalism lol. I'll just get cold.
I have my night temperature set at 65 (yes, the thermostat is in fahrenheit). I find I'm plenty warm with just blankets once I'm sleeping, it's when I'm in bed reading than I am cold.
Oh and did I say, my COLD feet?!
I think a flame thrower and a chalk line drawn around me might work. My DH has always been an underfoot kind of man. I always knew it. Now I really know it in the most painful way.
OMG. Next time he steps on your injured foot, throw a glass of water in his face.
Or don't let him get close enough to you that he can step on your foot.
I had care clients who were known to be 'shadowers' which means they have to be so close to a person that they're breathing down your neck at all times.
I've never allowed a client to shadow me. If one would try to I would extend my arms in front of myself and tell them very emphatically, 'BACK UP!' and they always did. Try this with your husband.
Your avatar cracks me up Send :)
“Know your worth, then add tax.”
“If you avoid the conflict to keep the peace, you start a war inside yourself.”
Prayers for safety for your foot and healing.
courage!
sendhelp has good advice!
“Use the crutches, point one at him, and shove if he gets too close.” 🙂
“Amazon has huge long distance water guns, both pistols and rifles.” 🙂
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and tell him you have a bunch of friends on the forum who’ll be really mad at him too, if he steps on you again.
I hear you.
Keep in mind, the best revenge is living well.
We can only try.
I agree.
And from experiences, I know that to be true for me as well.
Not sure it is that way for everyone. But maybe if you are the independent type, people around you have never learned to be helpful, but instead have relied on you.
If you need to keep someone away from your foot, Amazon has huge long distance water guns, both pistols and rifles.
You may have neglected other health concerns due to the pain of a broken foot.
Do what you can to best take care of yourself in all areas, while healing. Even resting is no fun because the pain can get to you.
Feeling overwhelmed, talk it out on here. I was surprised that so many caregivers have broken a bone. We could start a club.
We care.
Oh, I just read about hubs stepping on your foot.
Use the crutches, point one at him, and shove if he gets too close. Finally, a good use for crutches.
Ouch.
I need to maybe stay away from my hubs for a while too. Twice now he's stepped on my injured foot. So far, not the broken part but give him time.
I'm so mad at him right now I can't tell you. I mean how hard is it to be careful around someone with a fractured foot? I told him to just give me some space. Keep at least a foot between me and your biga** stomping feet. One more time and I'm going to book myself into a hotel for the next four weeks.
i hope you don’t feel like that, gershun.
your foot will get better!! find out if the boot is a good idea…i think doctors probably have mixed feelings about using a boot vs. not using a boot.
the thing is, using a boot can weaken the rest of the foot/ankle, because it’s totally immobile. similarly, for broken ribs (without punctured lung), doctors used to wrap up the rib cage. years later, doctors started advocating against wrapping: just leave the rib cage alone, natural, let it heal.
it’s important nothing else bumps into your left foot to hurt it. but sometimes a boot (keeping the foot totally immobile) can have negative side-effects — sometimes no boot, natural healing, using crutches but leaving the foot in the open air is better.
but your doctor knows best of course, and you. i’m just saying, sometimes no boot is better.
feel better soon! :)
“Toxic people will slowly kill you. They kill your positive spirit and play with your mind and emotions.”