Hey folks, welcome to the new whine/general topic thread. Feel free to use this thread to discuss anything that is on your mind. Caregiving- related stuff, life after a loved one's death, your own emotional wellbeing. Whatever..........anything on your mind.
“Some people can’t function without negativity because bringing down others makes them feel better.”
“If you don't like me, it's not my fault. There's CLEARLY something wrong with you."
“Not all storms come to disrupt your life, some come to clear your path."
“Whatever you do, don't run back to what broke you."
Darn Covid!
One thing that can happen is that when you changed your gait after breaking your metatarsals, a new injury to the soft tissues nearby has occurred. You would not have needed another fall for this to occur.
Of course, I did not know this, doctor internet told me. Always consult your doctor about new symptoms after your injury. And maybe treat the newly appearing bruise just as you did the original injury: R.I.C.E.
This is just me, but I would be soaking my foot in epsom salts to speed up healing, but I could be wrong. Be sure to keep moving, and do not try any exercises on your foot without the advice of your doctor or physical therapist.
Both Cwilllie and Golden have made good points, consistent with normal physiology and what doctor internet has advised.
Disclaimer: Be careful when following advice from doctor internet or persons on a forum. Even people trained in the medical field can be given or giving differing opinions, or misled by good sounding advice. Verify sources, follow the money. ✅
I looked online and could not find any definitive answers.
“If your happiness depends on what somebody else does, I guess you do have a problem.”
more wisdom…
“Some people are like clouds. Once they go away, it’s a beautiful day.”
more wisdom…
“Stay close to people who feel like sunshine.”
“Be someone that makes you happy.”
“Three types of people to stay away from…the uninspired, the unexcited and the ungrateful.”
“Don’t look for me in the crowd; come find me relaxing from it all.”
“If you want to achieve, stop asking for permission.”
On the way out, I chatted to Security on the door, and the guy said that he’d noticed it too. He said that perhaps Rudolph was more exciting, then he agreed with my reply ‘Perhaps not to Mary’. And I suppose that’s another thing. ‘The Birth of Christ’ depictions never had much in common with your average birth – in more ways than the religious.
“BE YOU! The world will adjust.”
“If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.”
“Sometimes u just gotta eat some garlic bread and move on.”
"Look to the future, because that is where you'll spend the rest of your life."
I got hit with suddenly taking the reins and all of the medical decisions when my parents, in their 80s, both fell ill with Covid, late 2020. We lost Dad and Mom has been in a NH, then MC, ever since. I've had sooo much to deal with - the primary home out of state, properties, effects and bequests to sell and sort, difficult care management, the estate issues, fighting a toxic, estranged and disinherited sib filing for corporate oversight of everything my parents assigned me to manage as I had been, so now a formal Guardian and Conservatorship, etc., etc.
My joy and comfort is that my 31 yr old daughter and my 2 grandkids, 6 & 9, live with me. It works for us, I've a 5 bedroom house. I'm the second parent to these awesome girls and I love my little tribe. Always (except the late teen years, of course) had a close and workable relationship with my only child and raised her as a single mom. The kids' dad won't step up, never truly has and daughter won't settle for a loser, learned that from me.
My Whine: I finally got in to see the hip surgeon of my choice (lots of research) today and will be scheduling my THR for right after XMas. The Xrays were horrible with the usual hip structures (even comparing one to the other) are unrecognizable. In the surgeon's words: "That hip has completely collapsed and the femoral head is displaced from any remaining socket." I put off my self-care for too long and had to because I'm so busy caring for the kids and my Mom and the estate that I couldn't justify time for myself.
Now my fingers are crossed that I can get through until after XMas without this hip disintegrating completely. Pls send some thoughts of strength and endurance for me, if you have some to spare after your own travails. No Biblical phrasing pls, we're not Christian (in no way disavow Christ's Teachings) but live and practice traditional Lakota Ways. While I certainly appreciate most all forms of worship and prayer, if you're one who doesn't, pls pass.
TG I have my dear daughter to take care of me, the best support anyone could ask for - and a nurse's kid so pretty savvy on medical stuff. And can have the surgery just 30 miles from home.
Anybody else let things get so far out of hand while lost deep in caring for everyone else? If so, you have my sincere sympathy.
glad - sounds good. Thanks for the information. Enjoy!!!
As for their usual M O re: responding to e-mails? It's hit and miss at best. I normally wouldn't even tell them about anything going on in my life just cause I've never felt that they care one way or another. The only reason I thought I'd mention it this time is cause my sister wanted to know what my plans were so she could plan her dinner. I guess I could have just said I'm not coming and left it at that. In retrospect, that would probably have been the smart thing.
But to be fair. You didn't want to go anyway. And it isn't *completely* obvious - it certainly won't be to your uninitiated siblings - why you can't sit with your foot elevated at your sister's house just as well as you can at home. Do they normally reply to emails.... eventually?