Hey folks, welcome to the new whine/general topic thread. Feel free to use this thread to discuss anything that is on your mind. Caregiving- related stuff, life after a loved one's death, your own emotional wellbeing. Whatever..........anything on your mind.
That kind of treatment is experienced as rejection, and it lingers.
It speaks more to the pastor's dysfunction and really has nothing to do with you, imo.
In these days and times, I am reminded of instructions I have heard before,
that is to not check your brain at the door (when entering church). I see that you have already got this!
Our journey and desire for spiritual growth will not end just because the churches end in apostasy.
There were only two other people besides him and myself at these sessions. One was a member of his congregation, the other was one of these people who just went on and on about herself and then when we prayed she would throw in "amens" and "thank-you Father" throughout the prayer. To each his/her own but it just annoyed me. Plus I never stated where I was in my own Christian journey to them and he treated me like I was totally ignorant about the Bible. He'd look at me and say things like "just in case you aren't aware" etc. etc. Then he got into this big discussion about how he doesn't counsel women on a one on one basis because of how it might look. I was tempted to remind him of the story in the Bible of how people criticized Jesus cause he let a woman of ill repute wipe his feet with her hair and how Jesus responded to them. My point being Jesus wasn't worried what people thought.
Anyway, it's all water under the bridge now. I stopped going and that was that.
Gershun - re that pastor, yikes!!! This is an example where judgement is appropriate. Not calling him names, but evaluating the situation and accepting that he was not good at the job of grief counselling and you needed to stop seeing him. If it (counselor, group etc.) doesn't work for me in the first few sessions, I respect my feelings, stop going and seek something else.
It is often more lonely when he is home.
My interactions consist of grocery store checkout people, Starbucks barristas and that's about that. I find myself talking to myself a lot. Talking to the cats but really talking to myself. :P
As for the whole church thing. I find it very sad that churches are so unwelcoming. Truly sad. Especially when you would think a church would be a place to find solace. I had big plans I was going to find a church to go to while Hubs was away but so far haven't. I still have two weeks but honestly don't like the idea of walking into a church by myself. That whole experience I had with the grief counselling turned me right off. The Pastor was a nervous prude and treated me like I was some Jezebel sent to tempt him. He actually had a panic attack one evening and had to leave. I just don't get it. I really don't.
Yes, small towns can be insular. Luckily I am sick enough to need one of those self-help groups, and have other adults to talk with. Good luck.
Schlep only if the weather allows.
Can you find a new church where you live?
Here is your ritual greeting:
Good Morning! Good to see you here today!
God Bless you.
Stay after the service and say hello.
Greet someone you do not know today.
Divide up into small groups for prayer in the sanctuary.
Go in Peace.
And remember, the life that He gives, He gives you forever!
I believe your own health condition has made the decision for you.
There is one school of thought that teaches we should not treat our own bodies harshly. imo.
My aunt is doing ok at rehab. We have a Care-plan meeting Tues. It's a week late because I was sick. My high blood pressure has gone down! So peaceful not waiting and listening for her next fall, or what to feed her, or why she's up and dressed at 2 am. I believe that I'm getting too old, and have too many health issues of my own to keep up after her rehab. Not easy to decide.
Now, everytime I close my computer, I was being logged out automatically.
So, I have increased my efforts to log out on purpose. Except when I fall asleep in the middle of posting.
Now that I know what to call it, my hubs will help me. He hates it if I don't use the right words, or his words.
I have deleted cookies, history before. That time I was not able to log back in to AgingCare without help from admin.
But I will still avoid those click bait ads, just like avoiding all the tabloid papers at the market checkout as I have always done.
Avoid the online ads that draw you in, give you limited but enticing next page, then next page, until you never get your answer unless you pay for something.
Have you ever gone to the ones that say: "Never eat this one food"; OR,
"Three foods you should never eat".
Those are the ones you just cannot get through without the ads taking over.
After going there, you find your computer is slowing, hard to type in your words correctly.....etc. Advice is to shut your computer down for a few minutes, then restart. May not work. So just stay away from those ads.
the jail guards were complaining they were working as caregivers
one woman when released committed another crime to be sent back
And try installing adblockplus if you want to get rid of pop up ads.