I had moved dad to Michigan near me last October and was able to visit him everyday until the Covid crisis. But still had many window visits and traded videos with the staff.
He was on hospice and they helped him have a peaceful death. He had no pain or distress. The long battle with dementia is finally over. He’ll be cremated here then I’ll bury his ashes beside mom in WV.
I want to thank Aging care and all the good people I have interacted with the past few years. This site was a great resource for me as I dealt with both parents on my own.
I did all the house/real estate stuff after mom died in 2917 so I’m not facing that job now. Cremation will be soon and I’ll make my last trip home to WV so dad can join mom.
I strongly encourage caregivers to utilize hospice. Try to find a non profit organization and get your loved one evaluated as soon as decline begins. It made a huge difference for my dad and for my peace of mind.
Be sure to give and get hugs each morning, cherishing the two of you during this difficult time.
Please, feel free to stay on this site. You may have insight that may help others. You're so right about this site being a great resource. Frankly, the people here saved my life.
*hug*
As losing a loved one with dementia is often called the "long goodbye" - like you said you already felt like you lost him five years ago and began the grieving process in "bits and pieces."
Even though I don't know you or your full story since I've only been on the forum a couple months, I still feel sad for your loss and will continue praying for you as you make that final journey home to WV to join your parents together - it will be bittersweet, no doubt.
May God's presence be with you always -
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